Back to Ask the Diabetes Team Ask the Diabetes Team

From Danbury, Connecticut, USA:

For several months I have been dating a very lovely 47 year old man who has had type 1 diabetes for more than 40 years, uses an insulin pump, and seems to take excellent care with his diabetes management. He is divorced with no children. However, he is extremely reticent about sex, and has thus far deflected any questions I have posed about this subject. He says he is just not "ready" to be sexual, and that he has been very lucky and has had no complications with this disease. However, I suspect there may be some dysfunction issues after having had the disease so long.

I am trying not to push this issue but am beginning to wonder if he is simply unwilling to discuss such a "taboo" matter. Can you suggest a tactful way to bring up a sensitive subject with regard to diabetes? Any suggestions would help, as I'd like to continue this relationship in some manner.


Although there may be several reasons why your loved one is avoiding sex, erectile dysfunction may be one of them. You are correct in your assessment that there may be a physical root to his reluctance. I would be patient and allow the relationship to blossom.

You might also seek guidance from other answers provided on this web site about sexual dysfunction. There are several medical interventions available if indeed the cause of his reticence is diabetes related. Viagra, penile implants and other options exist. Let him know that sex is vital but not a deal breaker between the two of you -- if that is the case. Encourage him to discuss with his personal physician, or to visit a urologist.


Original posting 26 Jul 2002
Posted to Complications and Other Social Issues


  Back to Ask the Diabetes Team Return to the Top of This Page

Last Updated: Tuesday April 06, 2010 15:09:36
This Internet site provides information of a general nature and is designed for educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your own health or the health of your child, you should always consult with a physician or other health care professional.

This site is published by T-1 Today, Inc. (d/b/a Children with Diabetes), a 501c3 not-for-profit organization, which is responsible for its contents. Our mission is to provide education and support to families living with type 1 diabetes.
By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use, Legal Notice, and Privacy Policy.
© Children with Diabetes, Inc. 1995-2018. Comments and Feedback.