Question from Tennessee, USA:

My 12 year old daughter, who has had type 1 diabetes for four years, just started her cycle about three months ago, and hasn’t had one since. She has a learning disability (I’ve been told she function at about age nine) which the doctor thinks is ADHD, has been suicidal, and she was hospitalized because of it. I’ m having a lot of behavior problems with her so I’m searching for information that would help me cope and understand.She has no self-worth/respect/love and doesn’t care for herself any more. I’ve had to lock my pantry door because shell eat anything and run her sugar extremely high. I’m afraid she’s going to burn her kidneys up, etc.

She’s not over- or underweight; she’s beautiful. She was the product of a rape that I endured in my youth so there’s not much I can do about that. I met her daddy when she was two months old, and he’s a good daddy.

She is in counselling and in home therapy. I’m desperate for help,and I’m doing all I know how to do and trying to keep her safe as well as my other two children. I’m looking for examples of a point system with rewards and consequences. to go by. Can you help send me in the right direction? Can you give me any advice that might help me?