Your daughter “really is” a diabetic. She may have entered the diabetes honeymoon, a time when her own pancreas is helping out some and producing some insulin. But, if you stop insulin and allow her pancreas to “do all the work,” the honeymoon will end and her glucose levels will be much more difficult to control. All diabetes honeymoons end. See previous previous questions on this web site for more information.
Yes, you probably caught this relatively early. But, it seems from what you wrote, that someone gave much more weight to the previously normal A1c value: the diagnosis of diabetes mellitus is NOT made based on an A1c; it is made with glucose readings and glucose readings previously in the 160 to 200 mg/dl [8.9 to 11.1 mmol/L] range should have alerted to other tests, I think. The A1c can relay how overall controlled the glucose value is over the preceding two to three months. However, if her averages were great two months ago but getting bad this month, the overall A1c may not reflect the current situation. Therefore, do NOT make a diagnosis of diabetes based on this. And, do not allow the A1c value to take the place of regular glucose checks at home.
As an aside, I do not really often abide by a diagnosis of “brittle” diabetes. More often, that really reflects someone who has not matched well insulin needs to meal planning and activity schedules. I hope your spouse is followed by an endocrinologist.
DS